What I do not like about most Indian girls ?
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Hi friends,
I am a girl by birth and I enjoy all the priorities and special preferences that come along with it. Giving it a microscopic view, the preferences are given just because we deserve it. These due preferences are exploited in favour of us, perhaps what we do in reciprocation is too less. I can see a confusion in your face once after reading this line. Let me take you through few incidents which made me realise that we are not making use of our fullest potential just because we are given a lot of preferences and we are not even questioned if we fail to perform the duty.
Irking fact 1 – We stay dumb at home after studies
Incident - Two of my friends who did schooling with me worked for a while and they quit their jobs once when they got engaged.
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We are given education just because we do not want to sit idle at home. A father earns money through his nose to pay the educational fees. Then comes the college life and the Post graduation. The total expense for a boy is 15 lk on an average, whereas for a girl it is 15lk + 10lk(marriage expense). Look at the boys – they assume responsibility to contribute it back to the family by taking care of them even after their marriage. What do we do? We do not even bother to pay a part of it, at least before marriage. We just stay at home and while away time while our fathers struggle to pay the loan back which was borrowed from some bank for our education. Is it not a shame on us? What are we really upto? If there is no need for job why do we study?
Irking fact 2 – We expect our boyfriends to spend for us.
Incident – I have seen one of my female friends(not to be mistaken for a girlfriend) pesturing her boyfriend to spend for her, to gift her friends on her birthday and throw parties just like that. She even borrowed a plethora of money for her personal expenditure when she was on tour with us – perhaps the money borrowed was borrowed (In tamil we term it “Gandhi Kannakku).
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Where is the place for self-respect if we depend on a guy for our day to day expense. There are all possibilities for him to expect us to be flexible as and when he requires us to be, simply for the reason that we just forgo self-esteem for the silly benefits through him. We should be happy as long as he is not misusing us or exploiting us in front of his friends, because we have already proven that we are with him for the offers and privileges that are given to us in the name of love. How shameless we are to receive it in the name of love?
Irking fact 3 – We grab our parent’s property in the name of dowry.
Incident – One of my friend’s parents came home to invite us for their daughter’s wedding. They were very proud to say that she is very clever in accumulating things for her life after marriage through her parents – this is something in addition to dowry – house hold appliances and other stuffs.
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Despite all the efforts to educate us and take care of us from top to bottom, we just stay mum when the guy’s parents demand something. Even in case if they do not demand, we do not protest when our parents extend to pay something in the name of dowry. They do that with the intention that we will stay happy after marriage making use of the possessions that were gifted. Are our hearts made of stone to squeeze every blood of our parents in favour of us? After all what is their blunder – to have given birth to a baby girl. No, not so much for having a daughter.
Irking fact 4 – We refuse to work after marriage?
Incident – One of my friends got married recently. She is at home and she is getting her work done through her husband. Her husband pays for the maid (which means she is not even into work at home – this is how you can learn to be idle), telephone and current bill and so on and so forth.
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Huh, now what? There is a solid victim for us to take our prey out of him. We demand jewelry, dress and accessories which are not mandatory.
The poor thing has to handle the pressure in his office to save a penny for his house and we squeeze him for money to buy jewelry. Why can not we just share his burden by being financially helpful to the family – no time, no, that can not be an answer. Out of 24 hours in a day, if we dedicate 3 hours for us, 6 hours for sleep, 5 hours for the work at home and imagine 3 hours for our husband – what to we do with the rest of the 7 hours.
I am sorry for being very offensive in this article. I apologise for losing my head perhaps I am not convinced at the way we squeeze the lives one after the other in the name of dependency. It is high time we think about it and take some steps necessary to back up our dependents who expect our participation in their lives.
If we really love a person why is there a place for financial expectation from him. After all if we can not take care of ourselves, we are not fit enough to take care of others too. Most of our lives are diminishing with the purpose of the birth left unfulfilled.
“Thank you for your time & Have a great day”
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I couldn’t agree more!
Ramya Writes: Thank you, Rav.
oops ,i don’t how true it is ,as we cant generalize ‘certain’ situations but i can feel ur a very self motivated and broad minded girl …..nice writing skills ,keep it up i enjoyed reading ur stuff
Ramya Writes: Thank you Srikar
hi, Ramya, Im from Malaysia,Born & raised here, I am deeply shocked reading this, We women must always be independent and not to rely on anyone for many things in life, No offence, But here women are encouraged to work before and after marriage,It gives you a self esteem and self satisfaction.I have seen mother of 5/6 work their way out to provide a better environment for their kids & family. And besides,here the cost of living is too high and need support financially form both the spouses.Its always encouragable for the women to earn their living independently.thats my humble opinion.
Ramya Writes: Hi Malarr, I couldn agree with you anymore. I totally agree with you. Perhaps women here take it for granted the culture and tradition and do not work. They like to sit at home and while away time. I have seen a lot of women of that kind.
Ramya ths is really a gud article.
Most of the girls nowadays study just for the sake of securing a degree and they never thnk of their future, time may come when they need to go for a job to support their family and their studies is of no use to them. I have seen my cousins as well, they even dnt worry about choosing a right course which will support them in the future. they just secure a degree to get a good alliance and never bother about the course they choose.
In my opinion girls should choose a right course which gives support to them at times when they are left alone and no one is their to take care of them.
Ramya Writes: Thank you Vijay. I am honoured.
What about the dowry mam. . . The whole fault is in the dowry system. . That is why i support love marriages . . .hehe he . .
Very true Sai. Dowry is something that is so cruised and rooted all over India. You can change it only through love marriages. You are 100% right perhaps just in case if it is not a love marriage, how can you curb it.
Whether or not it is love marriage, dowry system still prevails. Where we can start to curb dowry is by making our girls a bit more responsible towards the family Sai. Thanks man. Stay in touch Sai.